CONNECTION: My father is a gambler? What’s the next step?

WARNING: NEARLY NINETY PER CENT OF AUSTRALIANS PLAYED THE POKER MACHINES OVER THE LAST THREE MONTHS. MANY OF THEM ARE SERIOUS GAMBLERS. Below: THE CASH YOU LOST ON THE POKER MACHINES WAS A SECRET UNTIL YOUR PARTNER FOUND OUT.

There’s old an adage about poker machines that goes something like this: the more money you spend, the more you lose. You can’t win! YOU CAN’T WIN!

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Ms X is concerned that her recently widowed father is spending his time and money playing the pokies which, one day, “will be the ruin of him,” 

“My mum and dad were always close,”.  “They did everything together. Sadly, she passed away quite suddenly six months ago.”

Ms X continues: “For awhile I thought my dad was coping pretty well, still getting out and keeping quite busy. He lives about an hour away.

“Recently, when I visited, he’d been out and I let myself in and waited for him to return. Just last week I noticed there was a pile of red bills stuffed at the back of a drawer. When I asked him he became defensive, angry and quite hurtful.

“He said I know nothing about what he is going through. Later, I called one his friends; he told me dad was spending hours on end at the local club playing the poker machines.

BACKLOG OF BILLS

I'm very concerned about his gambling habit.  But after his uncharacteristic outburst, I don't know what to say to him.  Can you advise me where I should start?

The Carers Aid said many people spend a few dollars on the pokies - and that's harmless.

As it appears your father's joining the 160,000-200,000 other Australians who have become addicted to the promise of a big win.

But, quite simply, you lose more than you win. Sadly, no one can rein him in. The back-log of bills worries him. What started out as fun with the pokies has gone too far.

Here are some avenues to try:

A CHANGE of scenery; a removal from the gambling environment he craves for; breaking his habit.

RELATIONSHIPS Australia can assist you with his gambling problems in a non-confrontational way.

THERE IS Gambling Help Online.

SEE YOUR own solicitor or accountant regarding your father’s accrued bills. Best of luck!

Frank Morris writes: If your father is able to speak to a person face-to-face I recommend Gamblers Anonymous, He’ll get assistance from people who have been through the same problem. They can help him, providing he turns up. Not once but many times.

<< Best Years, Number 5, 2008. `


GAMBLING IS A PROBLEM: THE EXPERTS ARE THE PEOPLE TO SEE

Problem gaming can lead to the breakup of marriages, loss of employment and emotional stress. If you find yourself with any problems NOW is the right time to act. Gamblers Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experiences, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problems and help others to recover from any problems they have with gaming. To find more visit: www.gansw.org.au

CONNECTION IS FRANK MORRIS’ FIRST COLUMN DELVING INTO THE NITTY GRITTY OF THINGS GOING ON IN LIFE.

NEXT: Two parts. A fun story about a retired hostess who went for a ride in a ramshackle DC-3.

LATER: There are sixty-nine chemicals in smoking that are known to cause cancer. More than 40 Australians die each day from smoking … Aged Care: Be charitable, but be careful of the artful dodgers!

COMING: PRINCES OF THE FOURTH ESTATE

On the Territorial Enterprise of the 1860s one local reporter would go on to fame and fortune. Was it Mark Twain? Or Dan Dequille?


Part 1. The houses of mystery are still alive and enjoying themselves!

THEATERGOERS: ACTOR WHO WAS LADY LAVENDER FROM THE PLAY THE MERRY WIDOW BUT SOMETHING REALLY AWFUL HAPPENED. Below: UNDERTAKER C.T. FINNEY – WHAT DID HE GET UP TOO. SEE NEXT WEEK.

Nearly every place in Launceston is haunted, it seems. What is scary, and what many, many people believe is crazy after they found themselves gazing at a black wooden slat on the wall swaying back and forth. But, believe it or not, these people were indoors; and there was no breeze.  Now, that’s SCARY!

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Literally, Tasmanian history wreaks of mind-bending horror tales!

When you came to think about it, it’s out of the ordinary. Take, for instance, the Cape Grim massacre in 1828. Four shepherds ambushed and murdered 30 Aboriginal people, hurling their corpses over a 60 metre cliff into the ocean.

Or the positively merry tale of the eight male convicts who escaped from Sarah Island’s prison in 1822. The convicts got lost in the woods – all of them – and turned on each other, with the strongest convicts slaughtering the rest for food.

The locals believe that their island is full of ghosts. Rather than shy away from the past, though, the ghoulish Tasmanians have developed a knack of making money out of it. Across Tasmania, there are many paranormal investigation societies. There are those that investigate whether a home or business is haunted; the competition for clients is fierce.

In Launceston, which is a City of Ghosts, a mainstream tourist attraction is all about ghosts. This event is even listed in the “must dos” page of the official guide.

FEELS THE TREMORS

Rosemary, a brassy woman dressed in white and adorned with hooped earrings, looks down upon us, “Are you believers?” she asks, looking us in the eye. Some people says yes. Other people shrug. “Sitting on the fence, eh?” Rosemary laughs.

As the sun goes down, Rosemary leads us into the basement of the Royal Oak Hotel. For effect, she has lit only a single camping lamp. People’s eyes customise to the darkness. Rosemary warns each person they may feel a creature’s presence: they might manifest by playing with your hair, blasting cold air on your neck or making your hands be suddenly freezing cold.

Rosemary tells the people that a girl on a tour was smashed in the back of the head with an empty wine bottle.
Meanwhile, doors have slammed open and shut. Another ghost-like figure is notorious for pinching people’s bottoms, but only men’s. It’s must have been a male spirit.

The dead can be so scandalous.

<< www.discovertasmania.com.au

Part 2, next week: Why did undertaker C.T. Finney’s have a coffin in the embalming room … Princess Theatre and the Lavender Lady from The Merry Widow.


Final! St George: In a league of its own – go, go, go!

A TRUE LEGEND: GRAEME LANGLANDS GAVE THE FOUR GAMES HE PLAYED IN HIS UTMOST TO CLINCH 11 STRAIGHT PREMIERSHIPS. Below: LANGLANDS AND THOSE WHITE BOOTS IN 1975. YEARS LATER, PLAYERS NOW WEAR MULTI-COLOURED BOOTS.

They were called the mighty Dragons, more so in their victory in 11 premierships on the trot!

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Graeme Langlands scored more the fifteen hundred points in the Dragon’s rein on the premierships, which was a club record. The St George locality has a glorious sporting tradition and none have contributed more to that reputation than the mighty Dragons.

Sixty-two years ago, the St George Dragons were almost halfway through a golden era of compiling 11 straight rugby league premierships in the NSW first grade competition.

The glory days began in 1956 and stretched through to 1966.

SCORED A RECORD

The Dragons dominated in an era of unlimited tackles, with giant forwards, like Norm Provan, nine premierships, 256 first grade games, Ken Kearney, Kevin Ryan, Billy Wilson, Harry Bath, Dick Huddart, Monty Porter, Robin Gourley, Ian Walsh and Elton Rasmussen with Johnny Raper as lock.

Fellow league Immortals, Res Gasnier and Graeme Langlands, who fed off their tough halves Bobby Bugden, Brain Clay and Billy Smith, enabled Langlands to score 1554 points, a club record.

Speedsters and fellow internationals, Johnny King – a record 143 tries – and Eddie Lumsden (136), stood out as wingers in that golden era.

GRAEME LANGLANDS MADE HIS OWN HISTORY

BORN September 1, 1941, in Wollongong.

PLAYED 227 games for St George primarily as a fullback, helping to win four of their 11 straight premierships from 1963-1966.

FINISHED as the most prolific scorer in club history with 1554 points (86 tries, 648 goals).

PLAYED 45 Tests for Australia, equal-fourth most in Kangaroos history, and captained 15 times.

RETIRED in 1976, the same year he was awarded a Member of the British Empire.

INDUCTED in Sport Australia of Fame in 1986.

NAMED a rugby league Immortal.                                                                                              

INDUCTED in Australian Rugby League Hall of Fame in 2002.

SELECTED in Australia’s Team of the Century in 2008.

DIED January 20, 2018.

<< St George Leader 50th anniversary publication; The Sun-Herald; Frank Morris.

Next week: AFL Carlton’s Alex Jesaulenko – from classic football hero to the greatest.


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